I believe that women are sometimes hesitant to say certain things to their men for fear of damaging fragile egos. Historically we have been taught to be caretakers and be gentle with the boys. I feel that I have learned that an immense intimacy can be engaged if things, even things that husbands and males find hard to hear can be said. I think it is the way a woman says it. I have actually come to believe that it is important, even, to acknowledge directly areas where your husband might fall short of your hopes and expectations. If a woman does it in a playful and "sexy" manner she can bring up and point out areas where he falls a bit short. My rule of thumb has become - if I give him an erection while saying or doing it I can do or say virtually anything. Whether it is income he does not produce, things he is no-so-smart-about, or bedroom challenges he may have - oddly enough, pointing them out and even sexily teasing him about those issues can add deeply to a woman's leadership and general dominance. You are saying things that you both know are true - you are just putting it out there and keeping it under your erotic spell while you do. I am coming to believe that this can be exciting for men (even if embarrassing/humiliating) as it can embrace their deepest truths right within the context of feminine relationship and authority.
Truth!
ReplyDeleteAs training takes hold, he'll find that *any* assertion of your authority is arousing. Sometimes, the approach of my wife's footsteps is enough: I've learned to detect a purposefulness that isn't always there. I know that I am about to be summoned.
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ReplyDeleteMs. Missato, I hope you take this advice: do NOT put images on the blog. They very much hinder the high quality of the posts, which are high quality but are already challenged by how scarce they are to make this a fabulous blog. Images really lower the high quality of the blog; think of it like a restaurant that is gorgeous, has the best food, but uses cheap paper table cloths on the table -- the whole image goes down the drain.
ReplyDeleteI hope you take this in the highest light possible because it's constructive criticism.
Suggestion number two: admit anonymous posts.
Thanks! You have a wonderful blog!
Honestly, you are the first to complain about the pics. It had never occurred to me that they might detract from the site.
DeleteDoes anyone else have an opinion on this?
The images neither add nor detract from any given entry. But, since the internet itself is so heavy with images and video, having none at all would make for a dull, stodgy look. You might consider using photos of everyday people instead of models.
DeleteI had been thinking pictures added to sight appeal and readability but am curious as to how others feel.
ReplyDeleteYour point is well-taken, and I much prefer images of romance and affection to porn. It's just that the subjects of the photos are models, whereas the blog is for anyone. And most of us aren't models!
ReplyDeleteI do think the pictures add a splash of color and a pleasant touch of romance. I like them.
ReplyDeleteI think the photos you use enhance the post. I think one or two more per post would still be effective and illustrative of the topic. I think this is a great blog. I just found it and really like your style, your quiet firmness and flexibility in your FLR. God, I wish I had someone like that. My wife is wonderful, but doesn't have the personality to be the head of our household.
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